"Often, first responders may suppress their feelings or fail to discuss the distressing events they witness, leading to emotional distance or conflict within the marriage. "

First responders frequently encounter life-and-death situations, accidents, and trauma that can create emotional scars and lead to disregulation mentally, physically, and spiritually. The ability for both couples to process and cope with these emotions is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships. Often, first responders may suppress their feelings or fail to discuss the distressing events they witness, leading to emotional distance or conflict within the marriage.

First responders may have good intentions of sheltering their spouses from the negative details of the job as a way to prevent issues such as secondary trauma; however, their spouses may read into this personally and feel left out and isolated. In turn, the constant state of “high alert” first responders may carry with them off the job can lead to irritability, communication breakdowns, and emotional fatigue at home.

Time away from work and daily stressors allows couples to focus on one another without distractions. A retreat offers an opportunity to reconnect on a deeper emotional level, rekindling intimacy and affection.

Couples can learn ways to process the stress or trauma of the job. A lack of training for spouses of first responders leaves them with a lack of understanding and ability to help.

Connecting with other first responder couples can help break the isolation that many partners feel. These support networks offer a sense of community and solidarity, where couples can share experiences and advice in a nonjudgmental space.

ENHANCING MARITAL SATISFACTION

Retreats often encourage couples to set relationship goals and work together toward a future vision. This shared goal-setting can reignite a sense of purpose and direction in the marriage, helping couples overcome the challenges of their demanding professions.